Tuesday, July 22, 2008

Topics of conversation

Last weekend, my wife and I went to a birthday dinner of a friend of her. There were four couples and one kid. His mom is pregnant and so does another friend of my wife. Kinda feel bad for the birthday man and his wife, cos they seems to have no sign of becoming parent any time soon. Not sure what is the reason(s). So, they just play with the other couple's kid.

Anyway, the 2 pregnant women, their husbands and us were chatting over dinner on topics that were no interest to the birthday man and his wife. Well, what can we say, majority rules!

We were chatting about being parents and became/becoming parents. The usual stuff like do u feel...? Have u bought...? Did u go to....? Oh really?...should I ask ....from my doctor? Those kinds of stuff, sure jokes were told on the table and some useful information was surely shared. Other than the baby stuff, the main related topic is housemaid. Cos, we have one and the other pregnant couples are getting one. Just these two topics already filled up the whole evening. Next time, when we met, there will be two newborns, regardless whether they will show up in gathering or not, it doesn't matter. I'm pretty sure these two topics: baby and housemaid will be quite permanent in our conversation in foreseeable future. Cos, we didn't bring our baby this time, that doesn't stop us from talking about it. Those days about going movies, dining at nice place, etc are gone.... as least for a while.

I wonder how the remaining couple deal with us in the future gatherings. Cos, they are already kinda quiet, now they became invisible and unheard at the table. Some of my ex-colleagues were staying childless for a reason or another. I think they intend to gather together with each other to do things or talk about things that suit their interests and lifestyle. Certainly, they have friends with kids, but life just changes completely when u have kid. People somehow do group with their own kind. Not that there is anything wrong with that. It is just that way.

As we grow other, I think folks are intended to group in few ways: the singles (+divorced), the married without children, and the married with children. Certainly, there are single parents as well. All groups have their lives to live, they can move around groups willingly or unwillingly. Just the way it is.....

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