Tuesday, September 23, 2014
Long time no blog! I’ve let the dust to settle down before sharing my 2 cents of thought.
iPhone 6 and 6+
Apple finally bows down to competitors to make bigger phones. The hardware and specs are decent, not spectacular, and they don’t need to be for commercial reason. The design are still top notch, better than its competitors, all it needs indeed is to make consumers feel that iPhone is still a premier product that deserve premium price. The chip and sensors are marginal upgrade from 5s, expected. My view is that iPhone 6 and 6+ are probably the beginning of the end of hardware renovation for iPhone. Cuz, what more can Apple does? Unless they make a hologram, minority report types of projection, etc. Otherwise, that’s pretty what we will see in years to come. i.e. 6s would have the same physique, 7, 7s, from round edge back to sharp edge, may be Sapphire glass, liquid metal be used for materials. Maybe Apple will make color metal cases, etc. That’s pretty much what the incremental change it would make. Size will stay for at least next few years if not permanent. What really would change are internal, upgraded sensor, chip, battery and the killer iOS. That’s about it.
The killer for Apple, as I mentioned in many posts before, is its ecosystem of hardware, software and services. ApplePay is surely the latter one. It is not a very innovative thing, it just as most of other Apple’s services incorporated in its ecosystem, just works! The most important thing is the lure of banks and merchants to buy in this services and to become an industry standard in next 2-3 years. Apple doesn’t need to do much but getting fee from every transaction! That will ensure a new stream of cash flow. I’m pretty sure ApplePay will succeed given it simply makes payment easy. This service will do if not more than the iTunes App store to Apple, 30% charge on Apps. Apple just opened a gold mine!
I’m less a skeptic of this product than many naysayers. To be honest, for both iPhone and iPad, my first purchase of them were happened to be the 3rd gen of the products. I want an AppleWatch, but I don’t need one, at least for now. So, as usual, I will stay tune to let Apple fine tuning this product before I hop in. What are current problems or issues that I have with the 1st gen AppleWatch? Yes, many spec have not been released, but the following suspicions at the moment would still be largely believable.
Battery – nightly charge is no good. Sure, I nightly get my iPhone recharged, shouldn’t matter to recharge another thing. But, it should be going reverse, to have better iPhone battery so I don’t need to recharge it daily. Watch is smaller and so does its battery, but people would expect a smaller screen size shouldn’t consume a lot of power that requires daily recharge. Yes, a magnet recharger is nice, but what matter is the other end of the recharger that it is connected to - Still a bulky backup portable battery! Apple gotta do something about it, be it to be recharged remotely or via kinetic action or something. Stay tune to Apple to acquire some small companies that can do those things in next year or two.
Size – the belts are nice, I’m sure 3rd party dealers will do much more than that. Stay tune to Louis Vutton, Gucci, etc to come up with their belts for AppleWatch in next year or two. The problem of the watch itself is that it still looks a bit bulky! It looks too thick! I would say that it will definitely be improved by in next gens as a major selling point by Apple, the only roadblock is the battery. A tough case to crack!
I think the UI is innovative with those circle icons, but it would demand learning and memorization by users to recognize which icon is which. Also, I’m not sure if it is easy to spot the right icon for people with big fat fingers. The digital crown is nice, would want to see more details about that. The watch can do wi-fi. I’m not sure if I would buy in the map feature that it shows in keynote. The screen is simple too small and if it has to work with iPhone, why don’t I just take the phone out and look at it? Also, about the use of Siri, I’ve concern of the audio volume. The health sensor is a nice touch, ApplePay indication is nice too, but I think Apple is still waiting for a killing app to drive its sale. Anyway, I’m pretty sure I will buy an AppleWatch…in few years.
Saw the movie the other day. It is a decent movie with the right amount of drama, action and CG.
Scarlett Johansson carried the whole movie beautifully. She makes this movie watchable and engaging. Morgan Freeman remains Morgan Freeman, a decent part without much up or down in emotion. I think he just did it for the paycheck. The Korean villain is cool and has more acting to do than Morgan Freeman, but still a stereotype of Asia bad guy: crazy, over the top, killing everybody just because he can.
Yes, agreed with many critics that the ending of the movie is a bit too much. How can someone use 100% of the brain will end up omnipotent like God? That doesn’t make sense! But, it is just a movie, doesn’t matter for this mindless detail. For a brief 90 minutes of fun, I think Luc Besson did a good job to entertain the audience. More a commercial version of Tree of Life with some Matrix feel, well I’m entertained.
Monday, July 21, 2014
It has been the longest absence of blogging ever for this site. I guess many people thought that I've abandoned this site for good. Well, that's not true. There are just simply too many things happened in the last two months+ that can explain my absence. I think we could take over 10 posts to cover everything in details which just not gonna happen given the current situation that I'm in now. So, I'm just gonna do that by bullets, just for my personal interests to record part of my history.
1. Job change
I left my previous company for a new one. Hours are much longer and works are much more challenging. It is not an easier environment to survive. Cuz, my current job has no BAU, I either succeed or fail! No third way. So, I've been working very hard to please my new boss as well as everybody and myself as well. I even dreamed many times about my job which is not a good sign! But, what can I say? I made the choice to move on and I'm not that kind of person who will regret over such decision. So, I suck it up and take it like a man! It ain't easier, but looking at the good side, I've not been that self-motivated for a long time. I do like my current job and think that I still have the chance to make something about it. So, I gotta focus and work smart at the same time! What can I say?
2. Business Trip
I left for a business trip to the U.S. for 2 weeks last month during the World Cup period. It was an interesting trip. Met my sis one day in NYC. Visited the 9/11 Memorial Center, etc. Also, some scenary do stimulate certain nostalgic feelings.... Stucked in the middle of nowhere, glad to have free WIFI to Facetime with my family daily, and some old friends as well.... Travelled on B-class for the first time, it was indeed nice! Watch tons of movies!!! (includes LEGO, The Rise of the Planet of the Ape, The Wolf of Wall Street, Captain Philips, Total Recall and Robocop remakes, Frozen, World War Z, The Amazing Spider-man, Thor 2 - the Dark World, Iron Man 3, etc.)
3. Housemaid Replacement
That happened before my B trip. It was done out of a 'necessary' reason. Is the result good? That's certainly debatable. Just another unique thought comingle in an already very busy and hectic household. Challenges always, such as new relationships to be formed, broken things like washing machine, electic fan in toilet, etc. Another character to deal with.....
4. Health concern
Touchwood, nothing really bad has been detected, but I do think that I'm getting old and stress at the same time. My hair loss is getting serious. My recent flu virus attack that gave me 4 days+ of sore throat has been a torture! I need to really pay more attention to my health and body.....
- Went to see Transformer 4 with my wife which was nice! Haven't done that for a while.
- My iPad was disabled more than a month ago and I still don't have time and arrangement line up to fix it...
- Bought a new HP PC before I left for my B Trip. It was a rush decision that I'm a bit regret that was made. Win 8.1 sucks! can't read isilos, problem with reading Chinese, still has problem in downloading files, iTunes problem, etc......SUCKS!!!!!! Well, that's all for now. Hope that I will have chance to blog more in near future!.....
Friday, May 9, 2014
Just came across a very interest article about Chinese URL.
In case the article will be gone in future, I just copy that below:
In case the article will be gone in future, I just copy that below:
The Secret Messages Inside Chinese URLs
An American friend living in Beijing once said she refused to communicate with anyone whose email address consisted of a string of numbers, such as email@example.com. This made sense to me at the time—why make email addresses as difficult to remember as phone numbers? But I soon realized that issuing a blanket ban on number-based communications would mean cutting off just about every single Chinese person I knew.
In the U.S., you really only have to remember two long numbers, ever: Your phone number and your Social Security number. In China, you’re constantly barraged by digits: QQ numbers (QQ is China’s most popular chat service), email addresses, and even URLs. For example, the massive online retailer Jingdong Mall is at jd.com or, if that takes too long to type, 3.cn. Check out 4399.com to see one of China’s first and largest online gaming websites. Buy and sell used cars at 92.com. Want to purchase train tickets? It’s as easy as 12306.cn.
Why the preference for digits over letters? It mostly has to do with ease of memorization. To a native English-speaker, remembering a long string of digits might seem harder than memorizing a word. But that’s if you understand the word. For many Chinese, numbers are easier to remember than Latin characters. Sure, Chinese children learn the pinyin system that uses the Roman alphabet to spell out Mandarin words (for example, the word for “Internet,” 网络, is spelled wangluo in pinyin). And yes, Arabic numerals (1-2-3) are technically just as much a foreign import as the Roman alphabet (A-B-C). But most Chinese are more familiar with numbers than letters, especially those who didn’t go to college. To many, “Hotmail.com” might as well be Cyrillic.
The digits in a domain name usually aren’t random. The Internet company NetEase uses the web address 163.com—a throwback to the days of dial-up when Chinese Internet users had to enter 163 to get online. The phone companies China Telecom and China Unicom simply reappropriated their well-known customer service numbers as domain names, 10086.cn and 10010.cn, respectively.
Digits are even more convenient when you consider that the words for numbers are homophones for other words. The URL for the massive e-commerce site Alibaba, for example, is 1688.com, pronounced “yow-leeyoh-ba-ba”—close enough! Those digits can just as often have individual meanings. The video sharing site 6.cn works because the word for “six” is a near-homophone for the word “to stream.” The number five is pronounced wu, which sounds like wo, which means “I.” The number one is pronounced yao, which with a different tone means “want.” So the job-hunting site 51job.com sounds a lot like “I want a job.” Likewise, to order McDonalds’ delivery online, just go to 4008-517-517.com, the “517” of which sounds a bit like “I want to eat.” (An English equivalent might be the old radio jingle, “How many cookies did Andrew eat? Andrew 8-8000.”)
This kind of number-language has become an infinitely malleable shorthand among Chinese web users: 1 means “want,” 2 means “love,” 4 means “dead” or “world” or “is,” 5 means “I,” 7 means “wife” or “eat,” 8 means “get rich” or “not,” and 9 means “long time” or “alcohol.” The numbers 5201314, for example, mean 我爱你一生一世,or “I will love you forever”; 0748 means “go die”; and 687 means “I’m sorry.” (See here for more examples.) Chinese has plenty of other number-based slang, such as erbaiwu, or “250,” which means “idiot,” or “38,” pronounced sanba, which means “bitch.” And of course there’s the association of certain numbers with good or bad luck, and the subsequent demand for addresses and phone numbers with lots of 8s (“get rich”) and minimal 4s (“die”). Back in 2003, a Chinese airline paid $280,000 for the phone number 88888888.
Why don’t Chinese web addresses just use Mandarin characters? Because that’s a pain, too. The Internet Corporation for Assigned Names and Numbers (ICANN), which sets the rules for web addresses globally, has periodically hyped the expansion of domain names to include non-Latinate scripts, but Chinese web sites have yet to take full advantage. Some devices require a special plug-in to type in Chinese URLs, and even then it takes longer to type or write out characters than to input a few digits. Plus, for web sites that want to expand internationally but don’t want to alienate foreign audiences with unfamiliar characters, numbers are a decent compromise.
Still, the numbers/letters divide is emblematic of the Internet’s built-in bias: Even more than two decades after its birth, it’s still a fundamentally American system. (Sorry, Tim Berners-Lee.) ICANN is an American non-profit corporation, though the U.S. recently agreed to hand it over to a “global multi-stakeholder community” in 2015. ASCII, the character-encoding scheme that was long used on most web pages, is short for the “American Standard Code for Information Interchange.” In 2012, the United States refused to sign an international telecommunications treaty, supported by both Russia and China, that would shift the Internet away from its current U.S.-centric form of governance. In other words, the structure of the Internet is a constant reminder of American digital hegemony, from WiFi standards to GPS. Even the “.cn” at the end of Chinese URLs comes from the English word for China, not the Chinese word for China. You can’t blame other countries for wanting to tell the American 250s to 0748.
我爱你一生一世要学就多学一点 0 字部 019425 你依旧是爱我 02746 你恶心死了 02825 你爱不爱我 03456 你相思无用 0437 你是神经 04517 你是我氧气 0456 你是我的 04567 你是我老妻 0457 你是我妻 045692 你是我的最爱 0487 你是白痴 0487561 你是白痴无药医 0564335 好无聊时想想我 0594184 你我就是一辈子 065 原谅我 06537 你惹我生气 07382 你欺恶怕善 0748 你去死吧 07868 你吃饱了吧 08056 你不理我啦 0837 你别生气 08376 你别生气了 095 你找我 098 你走吧 1 字部 1240 最爱是你 1314 一生一世 1314925 一生一世就爱我 1372 一厢情愿 1392010 一生就爱你一个 1414 意思意思 147 一世情 1573 一往情深 1711 一心一意 2 字部 200 爱你哦 20110 爱你一亿年 20160 爱你一万年 20170 爱你一千年 20184 爱你一辈子 2030999 爱你想你久久久 2037 为你伤心 20475 爱你是幸福 20609 爱你到永久 207374 爱你七生七世 20863 爱你到来生 20999 爱你久久久 220225 爱爱你爱爱我 230 爱上你 234 爱相随 235 爱上我 240 爱死你 246 饿死了 246437 爱是如此神奇 25184 爱我一辈子 25873 爱我到今生 25910 爱我久一点 259695 爱我就了解我 259758 爱我就娶我吧 2627 爱来爱去 282 饿不饿 2925184 爱就爱我一辈子 296 爱走了 3 字部 300 想你哦 30920 想你就爱你 309420 想你就是爱你 3013 想你一生 31707 LOVE(把BP机倒过来看) 32012 想念你的爱 32069 想爱你很久 3207778 想和你去吹吹风 330335 想想你想想我 3344 生生世世 3399 长长久久 356 上网了 35910 想我久一点 3731 真心真意 39 THANK YOU 4 字部 440295 谢谢你爱过我 4422335 时时刻刻想想我 4457 速速回机 456 是我啦 460 思念你 5 字部 505 SOS 507680 我一定要追你 510 我依你(我已来) 51020 我依然爱你 51095 我要你嫁我 51396 我要睡觉了 514 无意思 515206 我已不爱你了 51620 我依然爱你 51820 我已不爱你 518720 我一辈子爱你 51920 我依旧爱你 51930 我依旧想你 520 我爱你 5201314 我爱你一生一世 520*10000 我爱你一万年 5203344 我爱你生生世世 52094 我爱你到死 521 我愿意 5230 我爱上你 5240 我爱是你 52406 我爱死你了 526 我饿了 5260 我暗恋你 530 我想你 530184 我想你一辈子 53207778 我想和你去吹吹风 53406 我想死你了 53517230 我想我已经爱上你 5360 我想念你 5366 我想聊聊 5376 我生气了 53719 我深情依旧 53770 我想亲亲你 53782 我心情不好 53880 我想抱抱你 53980 我想揍扁你 540086 我是你女朋友 54033 我是你先生 5406 我是你的 5407 我是你妻 54064 我是你老师 54074 我是你妻子 54086 我是你八啦 5420 我只爱你 54335 无事想想我 543720 我是真心爱你 54430 我时时想你 5452830 无时无刻不想你 546 我输了 5460 我思念你 5490 我去找你 54920 我始终爱你 554528096我无时无刻伴你左右 555 呜呜呜 55646 我无聊死了 556520 我不能不爱你 558 午午安 55926 我有多无聊 5620 我很爱你 562059487 我若爱你我就是白痴 5630 我很想你 564335 无聊时想想我 5670 我要娶你 570 我气你 57350 我只在乎你 57386 我去上班了 57410 我心属于你 574839 我其实不想走 57520 吾妻我爱你 576 我去了 5776 我出去了 578 补习班 58 晚安 584520 我发誓我爱你 586 我不来 587 我抱歉 5871 我不介意 592 我好饿 59240 我最爱是你 59420 我就是爱你 59430 我就是想你 59520 我永远爱你 596 我走了 5976 我到家了 6 字部 609 到永久 6120 懒得理你 6785753 老地方不见不散 6868 溜吧!溜吧! 687 对不起 7 字部 70345 请你相信我 706 起来吧 70626 请你留下来 706519184 请你让我依靠一辈子 7086 七零八落 7087 请你别走 70885 请你帮帮我 721 亲爱的 729 去喝酒 7319 天长地久 737420 今生今世爱你 73748096 今生今世伴你左右 73807 情深怕缘浅 740 气死你 7408695 其实你不了解我 745 气死我 745420 其实我是爱你 7474074 去死去死你去死 74839 其实不想走 756 辛苦了 765 去跳舞 7678 吃饱了吗 770880520 亲亲你抱抱你我爱你 7731 心心相印 7752 亲亲吾爱 775885 亲亲我抱抱我 77543 猜猜我是谁 77895 紧紧抱着我 786 吃饱了 7998 去走走吧 8 字部 8006 不理你了 8013 伴你一生 8074 把你气死 8084 BABY 809 保龄球 82475 被爱是幸福 825 别爱我 837 别生气 8384 不三不四 85 帮我 85941 帮我告诉他 885 帮帮我 860 不留你 865 别惹我 8716 八格耶鲁(日语混蛋) 881 拜拜唉 8834760 漫漫相思只为你 886 拜拜罗
Wednesday, May 7, 2014
Able to squeeze two and a half hour of time to see this movie the other day and wanna share my thoughts on this movie with you all.
What I know before I went to see the movie is that the actions are good, the movie is the longest Spider-man ever, and there will be Rhino, Electro and Goblin in the movie as villains.
What I think about the movie after I saw it are:
1. Andrew Garfield is better than I expected. I didn't see the reboot one of the franchise and I did like Tobey McGuire more as the Spidey, so when I know that the relatively good looking Andrew Garfield as the replacement, I'm kinda got put off to see the reboot. However, he seems to be fine as Peter Parker, though the movie has a sad part of it, he doesn't portrait Peter Parker as a loner and miserable person as Tobey did.
2. The love story between Peter Parker and Gwen Stacy is actually acceptable, though I think that the death of her character in the movie doesn't hit the audience as much as it should. She is a likable character, but I don't see how she affected Peter Parker's character or decision making much either when she is alive or after she died. Peter Parker/Spider-man still act and talk the same.
3. Jamie Foxx is a waste in the movie. Seriously, I like his character better as a person before he became Electro. He really didn't do much in the movie. Electro's character is just skin deep and so one dimensional that his purpose is just to give Spider-man a run at the money in CG heavy action scene.
4. Actions are good! The swinging scene, the action scenes in the movie are all good, visually great and good use of CG/3D. There are enough or more than enough of action to entertain the audience, while the other aspects of the movies are relatively lacking.
Would I recommend people to see this movie? I would say yes, for Spider-man fan, a big 'YES'. But, don't be too excited about this movie. I just think it just try to do a bit too much and none of them (i.e. Peter's relationship with Gwen, friendship with Harry, his relationship with Aunt May, etc) are really good except the actions. Honestly, I would say Captain America 2: Winter Soldier is actually a more entertaining movie than this one. I would give a B-.
Monday, May 5, 2014
I read this on the net today and really wanna record and share it with others:
...The biggest danger of faith is when people believe what they want to believe, defending against any and all evidence; especially when that evidence revolutionizes their foundation from the ground up. And the biggest culprit to that danger is the ego trap: rejecting/criticizing others, for being unlike you.
For centuries, the “defense” of blind faith has driven nations to war, violence, discrimination, slavery and to become the society of automatons that we are today; and for just as long, it has been justified with lies. If you know better, act like it.
Wednesday, April 16, 2014
Just saw the Captain America 2 – Winter Soldier the other day. Man, I heard that this movie is good and I entered the cinema with expectation. Well, I was very satisfied! For most of the Marvel movies that I saw in the last couple of years, except Thor 2 which I couldn’t make it to see in spite of the presence of the beloved Natalie Portman, I love most of them. Certainly, some are better than the others. The first Captain America movie was actually a surprise to me. I thought it would be quite boring giving the background of the movie was back in WWII, it was actually a better one than Thor. This sequel is just amazing!...
The acting by most characters is fine. Robert Redford as a villain is a given, but his presence in most scenes are still commanding. Sam Jackson the Nick Fury is still the Sam Jackson, more than enough for this character. Scarlett Johansson as the Black Widow hide her physique in most of the movie, but the bigger part in the movie make her character more interesting and we even root for some romance between her and Captain America. Anyway, she is still eye candy to the viewers. Falcon and Winter Soldier characters are smaller but optimal to screen time, and they were great in action/fight scenes. Chris Evan as Captain America is nice, though his acting is still a bit wooden, but we don’t really expect too much from Captain America. However, his fight scenes are really well, particularly those against Winter Soldier. The car chase and explosions are great as well.
The good thing is that this movie is really fine to be a stand-alone movie for people who are not following the rest of Marvel movies. As the heroes and villains of these movies don’t have too much super-power, it is more ground and realistic than Avengers. Also, the story itself with the spy plot that describe the supposed to be ‘good’ agency - SHIELD into a puppet of the” Nazi” Hydra add a nice depth to the story than would be a vanilla script for simply linking showing actions to actions. I think the subtext of technology of preemptive strikes, government’s seize of personal info to making the so-called ‘New World Order’ really resonate with viewers who are sensitive to the Edward Snowden vs. NSA saga, and other conspiracy theories.
Of course, there are always ‘holes’ that we can spot on in every movie, this one is no different. E.g. why would Black Widow, Falcon and Captain America after being caught, would be put in the same vehicle which would be easily hijacked by a good SHIELD agent easily? How would Black Widow know where Nick Fury’s USB drive be put in the lending machine? How could Black Widow and Captain America would be able to reach Falcon’s home so easy when the whole country are looking for them, etc. Those are minor things that I spot, but they wouldn’t really affect my enjoyment of the movie.
I don’t know how to rank this movie against other Marvels, but for a sequel, it is definitely one of the few that is better than the first one, even for outside the superhero genre. I would give a B+ easily.
Thursday, April 3, 2014
Out of my busy schedule, I was very surprise that I could squeeze time to finish reading this e-book:
How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
Instead of talking about how I found this book inspiring and useful, I'm just gonna paste some extracts that I made on this book below. These are highlights that I made while reading this book. I will certainly revisit them often in coming days as a way of self-improvement. This is indeed a great book! Can't help but recommending to everyone who love reading. It is not a difficult read, for mere 220+ pages, it is a great source of knowledge and wisdom that are as valid today as back then in the 1920s. Here you go....
Learning is an active process. We learn by doing.
Only knowledge that is used sticks in your mind.
Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself.
Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person’s precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment.
By criticizing, we do not make lasting changes and often incur resentment.
The person we are going to correct and condemn will probably justify himself or herself, and condemn us in return.
“Don’t complain about the snow on your neighbor’s roof,” said Confucius, “when your own doorstep is unclean.”
When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.
The secret of his success? “I will speak ill of no man,” he said, " . . and speak all the good I know of everybody.”
Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain - and most fools do.
But it takes character and self-control to be under-standing and forgiving.
“A great man shows his greatness,” said Carlyle, “by the way he treats little men.”
Often parents are tempted to criticize their children.
Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do.
“To know all is to forgive all.”
“God himself, sir, does not propose to judge man until the end of his days.”
Why should you and I?
There is only one way under high heaven to get anybody to do anything. And that is by making the other person want to do it.
The only way I can get you to do anything is by giving you what you want.
The deepest urge in human nature is “the desire to be important."
"The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.”
People sometimes became invalids in order to win sympathy and attention, and get a feeling of importance.
“the greatest asset I possess, and the way to develop the best that is in a person is by appreciation and encouragement.
“There is nothing else that so kills the ambitions of a person as criticisms from superiors. I never criticize any- one. I believe in giving a person incentive to work. So I am anxious to praise but loath to find fault. If I like anything, I am hearty in my approbation and lavish in my praise. “
Sincere appreciation was one of the secrets of the first John D. Rockefeller’s success in handling men.
We often take our spouses so much for granted that we never let them know we appreciate them.
I love you the way you are.’
We nourish the bodies of our children and friends and employees, but how seldom do we nourish their selfesteem?
The difference between appreciation and flattery?
That is simple. One is sincere and the other insincere.
One comes from the heart out; the other from the teeth out. One is unselfish; the other selfish. One is universally admired; the other universally condemned.
Now, if we stop thinking about ourselves for a while and begin to think of the other person’s good points, we won’t have to resort to flattery so cheap and false that it can be spotted almost before it is out of the mouth,
Nothing pleases children more than this kind of parental interest and approval.
What applies to professionals applies doubly to workers in offices, shops and factories and our families and friends. In our interpersonal relations we should never forget that all our associates are human beings and hunger for appreciation. It is the legal tender that all souls enjoy.
Try leaving a friendly trail of little sparks of gratitude on your daily trips. You will be surprised how they will set small flames of friendship that will be rose beacons on your next visit.
Honest appreciation got results where criticism and ridicule failed.
Hurting people not only does not change them, it is never called for.
I shall pass this way but once; any good, therefore, that I can do or any kindness that I can show to any human being, let me do it now. Let me not defer nor neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again.
Let’s cease thinking of our accomplishments, our wants. Let’s try to figure out the other person’s good points. Then forget flattery.
Give honest, sincere appreciation. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise,” and people will cherish your words and treasure them and repeat them over a lifetime - repeat them years after you have forgotten them.
So the only way cm earth to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it.
Every act you have ever performed since the day you were born was performed because you wanted something.
First, arouse in the other person an eager want.
The only way to influence people is to talk in terms of what the other person wants.
Tomorrow you may want to persuade somebody to do something. Before you speak, pause and ask yourself: “How can I make this person want to do it?”
"If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person's point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own.”
And if salespeople can show us how their services or merchandise will help us solve our problems, they won’t need to sell us. We’ll buy. And customers like to feel that they are buying - not being sold.
So the rare individual who unselfishly tries to serve others has an enormous advantage. He has little competition.
If out of reading this book you get just one thing - an increased tendency to think always in terms of other people’s point of view, and see things from their angle - if you get that one thing out of this book, it may easily prove to be one of the building blocks of your career.
When we have a brilliant idea, instead of making others think it is ours, why not let them cook and stir the idea themselves.
One can win the attention and time and cooperation of even the most sought-after people by becoming genuinely interested in them.
If we want to make friends, let’s put ourselves out to do things for other people - things that require time, energy, unselfishness and thoughtfulness.
A show of interest, as with every other principle of human relations, must be sincere. It must pay off not only for the person showing the interest, but for the person receiving the attention. It is a two-way street-both parties benefit.
Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, “I like you, You make me happy. I am glad to see you.”
Encouragement is a much more effective teaching device than punishment.”
People rarely succeed at anything unless they have fun doing it.
You must have a good time meeting people if you expect them to have a good time meeting you.
I have stopped talking about what I want. I am now trying to see the other person’s viewpoint. And these things have literally revolutionized my life. I am a totally different man, a happier man, a richer man, richer in friendships and happiness - the only things that matter much after all.”
“Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not.
Every body in the world is seeking happiness - and there is one sure way to find it. That is by controlling your thoughts. Happiness doesn’t depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions.
It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy.
It is what you think about it.
“most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
Most people don’t remember names, for the simple reason that they don’t take the time and energy necessary to concentrate and repeat and fix names indelibly in their minds. They make excuses for themselves; they are too busy.
Franklin D. Roosevelt knew that one of the simplest, most obvious and most important ways of gaining good will was by remembering names and making people feel important - yet how many of us do it?
Simple. If he didn’t hear the name distinctly, he said, “So sorry. I didn’t get the name clearly.” Then, if it was an unusual name, he would say, “How is it spelled?”
During the conversation, he took the trouble to repeat the name several times, and tried to associate it in his mind with the person’s features, expression and general appearance.
We should be aware of the magic contained in a name and realize that this single item is wholly and completely owned by the person with whom we are dealing and nobody else. The name sets the individual apart; it makes him or her unique among all others. The information we are imparting or the request we are making takes on a special importance when we approach the situation with the name of the individual. From the waitress to the senior executive, the name will work magic as we deal with others.
Exclusive attention to the person who is speaking to you is very important.
So if you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener. To be interesting, be interested. Ask questions that other persons will enjoy answering. Encourage them to talk about themselves and their accomplishments.
The royal road to a person’s heart is to talk about the things he or she treasures most.
I got the feeling that I had done something for him without his being able to do anything whatever in return for me. That is a feeling that flows and sings in your memory lung after the incident is past.
will bring us countless friends and constant happiness. But the very instant we break the law, we shall get into endless trouble. The law is this: Always make the other person feel important.
“The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.”
“I’m sorry to trouble you,.. “Would you be so kind as to ----? " "Won't you please?” " Would you mind?” “Thank you” - little courtesies like these oil the cogs of the monotonous grind of everyday life- and, incidentally, they are the hallmark of good breeding.
Almost everyone considers himself important, very important.
The unvarnished truth is that almost all the people you meet feel themselves superior to you in some way, and a sure way to their hearts is to let them realize in some subtle way that you recognize their importance, and recognize it sincerely.
“Talk to people about themselves and they will listen for hours .”
In a Nutshell SIX WAYS TO MAKE PEOPLE LIKE YOU
PRINCIPLE 1 Become genuinely interested in other people.
PRINCIPLE 2 Smile.
PRINCIPLE 3 Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
PRINCIPLE 4 Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
PRINCIPLE 5 Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
PRINCIPLE 6 Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely.
Come to the conclusion that there is only one way under high heaven to get the best of an argument - and that is to avoid it .
Buddha said: “Hatred is never ended by hatred but by love," and a misunderstanding is never ended by an argument but by tact, diplomacy, conciliation and a sympathetic desire to see the other person’s viewpoint.
Distrust your first instinctive impression. Our first natural reaction in a disagreeable situation is to be defensive. Be careful. Keep calm and watch out for your first reaction. It may be you at your worst, not your best.
Control your temper. Remember, you can measure the size of a person by what makes him or her angry.
Listen first. Give your opponents a chance to talk. Let them finish. Do not resist, defend or debate. This only raises barriers.
Try to build bridges of understanding. Don’t build higher barriers of misunderstanding.
Look for areas of agreement. When you have heard your opponents out, dwell first on the points and areas on which you agree.
Be honest, Look for areas where you can admit error and say so. Apologize for your mistakes. It will help disarm your opponents and reduce defensiveness.
Promise to think over your opponents’ ideas and study them carefully. And mean it. Your opponents may be right.
Thank your opponents sincerely for their interest. Anyone who takes the time to disagree with you is interested in the same things you are. Think of them as people who really want to help you, and you may turn your
opponents into friends.
Postpone action to give both sides time to think through the problem. Suggest that a new meeting be held later that day or the next day, when all the facts may be brought to bear. In preparation for this meeting, ask yourself some hard questions:
Could my opponents be right? Partly right? Is there truth or merit in their position or argument? Is my reaction one that will relieve the problem, or will it just relieve any frustration?
Will my reaction drive my opponents further away or draw them closer to me? Will my reaction elevate the estimation good people have of me? Will I win or lose?
What price will I have to pay if I win? If I am quiet about it, will the disagreement blow over? Is this difficult situation an opportunity for me?
If you are going to prove anything, don’t let anybody know it. Do it so subtly, so adroitly, that no one will feel that you are doing it.
You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him to find it within himself.
Be wiser than other people if you can; but do not tell them so.
One thing only I know, and that is that I know nothing.
"I may be wrong. I frequently am. Let’s examine the facts.”
You will never get into trouble by admitting that you may be wrong. That will stop all argument and inspire your opponent to be just as fair and open and broad-minded as you are. It will make him want to admit that he, too, may be wrong.
I adopted, instead of them, ‘I conceive,’ ‘I apprehend, ’ or ‘I imagine’ a thing to be so or so, or ‘it so appears to me at present.’
"I am convinced now that nothing good is accomplished and a lot of damage can be done if you tell a person straight out that he or she is wrong. You only succeed in stripping that person of self-dignity and making yourself an unwelcome part of any discussion.”
Never say, "You're wrong.”
I am at fault and there is absolutely no excuse for my blunder.
" ‘I should have been more careful,’… and you deserve the best;
There is a certain degree of satisfaction in having the courage to admit one’s errors. It not only clears the air of guilt and defensiveness, but often helps solve the problem created by the error.
Any fool can try to defend his or her mistakes - and most fools do - but it
raises one above the herd and gives one a feeling of nobility and exultation to admit one’s mistakes.
‘If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.’
When we are right, let’s try to win people gently and tactfully to our way of thinking, and when we are wrong - and that will be surprisingly often, if we are honest with ourselves - let’s admit our mistakes quickly and with enthusiasm. Not only will that technique produce astonishing results; but, believe it or not, it is a lot more fun, under the circumstances, than trying to defend oneself.
The points on which we differ are few and the points on which we agree are many, and that if we only have the patience and the candor and the desire to get together, we will get together.”
So with men, if you would win a man to you cause, first convince him that you are his sincere friend. Therein is a drop of honey that catches his heart; which, say what you will, is the great high road to his reason.
Friendly remarks as: “It will be for the jury to consider,” “This may perhaps be worth thinking of,” " Here are some facts that I trust you will not lose sight of,” or “You, with your knowledge of human nature, will easily see the significance of these facts.”
In talking with people, don’t begin by discussing the things on which you differ. Begin by emphasizing - and keep on emphasizing - the things on which you agree.
Keep emphasizing, if possible, that you are both striving for the same end and that your only difference is one of method and not of purpose.
It is much more profitable and much more interesting to look at things from the other person’s viewpoint and try to get that person saying ‘yes, yes.' “
If you disagree with them you may be tempted to interrupt.
But don’t. It is dangerous. They won’t pay attention to you while they still have a lot of ideas of their own crying for expression. So listen patiently and with an open mind. Be sincere about it. Encourage them to express their ideas fully.
“If you want enemies, excel your friends; but if you want friends, let your friends excel you.”
Isn’t it wiser to make suggestions - and let the other person think out the conclusion?
Consulting them about their wishes and desires was just the shot in the arm they needed.”
No one likes to feel that he or she is being sold some- thing or told to do a thing. We much prefer to feel that we are buying of our own accord or acting on our own ideas. We like to be consulted about our wishes, our wants, our thoughts.
I urged him to give me his ideas. This made him feel that he was creating the designs. And he was. I didn’t have to sell him. He bought.”
They are not perfect. We know that, and we want to improve them. So we should be deeply obligated to you if you could find time to look them over and give us your ideas about how they can be made more serviceable to your profession.
Remember that other people may be totally wrong. But they don’t think so. Don’t condemn them. Any fool can do that. Try to understand them. Only wise, tolerant, exceptional people even try to do that.
There is a reason why the other man thinks and acts as he does. Ferret out that reason - and you have the key to his actions, perhaps to his personality .
Try honestly to put yourself in his place.
Success in dealing with people depends on a sympathetic grasp of the other persons’ viewpoint.”
"Cooperativeeness in conversation is achieved when you show that you consider the other person’s ideas and feelings as important as your own. Starting your conversation by giving the other person the purpose or direction of your conversation, governing what you say by what you would want to hear if you were the listener, and accepting his or her viewpoint will encourage the listener to have an open mind to your ideas.” *
Seeing things through another person’s eyes may ease tensions when personal problems become overwhelming.
Why not pause and close your eyes and try to think the whole thing through from another person’s point of view? Ask yourself: “Why should he or she want to do it?” True, this will take time, but it will avoid making enemies and will get better results - and with less friction.
I would rather walk the sidewalk in front of a person’s office for two hours before an interview than step into that office without a perfectly clear idea of what I was going to say and what that persob - from my knowledge of his or her interests and motives - was likely to answer.
"I don’t blame you one iota for feeling as you do. If I were you I would undoubtedly feel just as you do.”
Three-fourths of the people you will ever meet are hungering and thirsting for sympathy. Give it to them, and they will love you.
I assure you that you were not one-tenth as distressed as I am.
‘Self-pity’ for misfortunes real or imaginary is in some measure, practically a universal practice.”
J. Pierpont Morgan observed, in one of his analytical interludes, that a person usually has two reasons for doing a thing: one that sounds good and a real one.
have taught me something about human nature , and I sized you up in the first place as being a man of your word.
I give you my word I will accept your decision as final. I will privilege you to move and admit to myself I’ve been wrong in my judgment. But I still believe you’re a man of your word and will live up to your contract.
Nothing will work in all cases - and nothing will work with all people. If you are satisfied with the results you are now getting, why change? If you are not satisfied, why not experiment?
"I want you to know I also feel this matter has been badly mishandled. You’ve been inconvenienced and annoyed and irritated by one of our representatives. That should never have happened. I’m sorry and, as a representative of the company, I apologize.
As I sat here and listened to your side of the story, I could not help being impressed by your fairness and patience.
I am going to ask you to do something for me. It’s something that you can do better than anyone else, something you know more about than anyone else.
When no information can be secured about the customer, the only sound basis on which to proceed is to assume that he or she is sincere, honest, truthful and willing and anxious to pay the charges, once convinced they are correct.
Merely stating a truth isn’t enough. The truth has to be made vivid, interesting, dramatic. You have to use showmanship.
“The way to get things done,” say Schwab, “is to stimulate competition. I do not mean in a sordid, money-getting way, but in the desire to excel.”
The one major factor that motivated people was the work itself. If the work was exciting and interesting, the worker looked forward to doing it and was motivated to do a good job.
That is what every successful person loves: the game.
The chance for self-expression. The chance to prove his or her worth, to excel, to win. The desire to excel. The desire for a feeling of importance.
PRINCIPLE 12 Throw down a challenge.
I n a N u t s h e l l WIN PEOPLE TO YOUR WAY OF THINKING
PRINCIPLE 1 The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
PRINCIPLE 2 Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say, “You’re wrong.”
PRINCIPLE 3 If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
PRINCIPLE 4 Begin in a friendly way.
PRINCIPLE 5 Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.
PRINCIPLE 6 Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
PRINCIPLE 7 Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
PRINCIPLE 8 Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
PRINCIPLE 9 Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.
PRINCIPLE 10 Appeal to the nobler motives.
PRINCIPLE 11 Dramatize your ideas.
PRINCIPLE 12 Throw down a challenge.
It is always easier to listen to unpleasant things after we have heard some praise of our good points.
And by continuing the same conscientious efforts
“You might consider this,” or “Do you think that would work?”
” He always gave people the opportunity to do things themselves; he never told his assistants to do things; he let them do them, let them learn from their mistakes.
A technique like that makes it easy for a person to correct errors. A technique like that saves a person’s pride and gives him or her a feeling of importance. It encourages cooperation instead of rebellion.
Asking questions not only makes an order more palatable; it often stimulates the creativity of the persons whom you ask. People are more likely to accept an order if they have had a part in the decision that caused the order to be issued.
You were on the spot, but you came through with flying colors, and we want you to know the firm is proud of you. You’ve got the stuff - you’re going a long way, wherever you’re working. This firm believes in you, and is rooting for you, and we don’t want you to forget it.’
Even if we are right and the other person is definitely wrong, we only destroy ego by causing someone to lose face.
What matters is not what I think of him, but what he thinks of himself. Hurting a man in his dignity is a crime.”
Let us praise even the slightest improvement. That inspires the other person to keep on improving.
Singled out a specific accomplishment, rather than just making general flattering remarks, his praise became much more meaningful to the person to whom it was given. Everybody likes to be praised, but when praise is specific, it comes across as sincere - not something the other person may be saying just to make one feel good.
We all crave appreciation and recognition, and will do almost anything to get it. But nobody wants insincerity. Nobody wants flattery.
Abilities wither under criticism; they blossom under encouragement.
I realized I hadn’t given you the entire picture of our new line, and I would appreciate some of your time to tell you about the points I omitted. I have respected the fact that you are always willing to listen and are big enough to change your mind when the facts warrant a change.”
I thought I’d take the time to thank you for the fine job of x you’ve been doing.
Be liberal with your encouragement, make the thing seem easy to do, let the other person know that you have faith in his ability to do it, that he has an undeveloped flair for it - and he will practice until the dawn comes in the window in order to excel.
Always make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.
1. Be sincere. Do not promise anything that you cannot deliver. Forget about the benefits to yourself and concentrate on the benefits to the other person.
2. Know exactly what it is you want the other person to do.
3. Be empathetic. Ask yourself what is it the other person really wants.
4. Consider the benefits that person will receive from doing what you suggest.
5. Match those benefits to the other person’s wants.
6. When you make your request, put it in a form that will convey to the other person the idea that he personally will benefit. We could give a curt order like this: " John, we have customers coming in tomorrow and I need the stockroom cleaned out. So sweep it out, put the stock in neat piles on the shelves and polish the counter.” Or we could express the same idea by showing John the benefits he will get from doing the task: “John, we have a job that should be completed right away. If it is done now, we won’t be faced with it later. I am bringing some customers in tomorrow to show our facilities. I would like to show them the stockroom, but it is in poor shape. If you could sweep it out, put the stock in neat piles on the shelves, and polish the counter, it would make us look efficient and you will have done your part to provide a good company image.”
PRINCIPLE 1 Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
PRINCIPLE 2 Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
PRINCIPLE 3 Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
PRINCIPLE 4 Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
PRINCIPLE 5 Let the other person save face.
PRINCIPLE 6 Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.”
PRINCIPLE 7 Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
PRINCIPLE 8 Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
PRINCIPLE 9 Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.