Friday, May 14, 2010
I think I’m a quite tolerant person compared with most others. I mean that I am usually able to see a thing from different angles before making judgement. As I can see thing from others’ perspectives, that makes me to be able to give more objective opinions and sometimes those would be contradict to many people’s. Also, when I try to improvise how others think, I become a more tolerant person. For example, for most people who receive rude services from a restaurant, they usually will see that it is the restaurant’s fault right the way. They just think that I’m a customer who is paying for your services, you should treat me well regardless. Well, I don’t think that’s wrong, but I also will look at why bad services were given. Is it because the waiter was watching horse racing and probably lost some money? Is it because the air-con is not working well and people just have bad temper? Or, since I’m going to a cheap restaurant that probably pay bare minimum wages to its employees, so we simply get what we pay for? I know that none of these should be excuse of being rude to the customers. But, nobody would be rude to another person without reason. There must be trigger(s) and by understanding what it is, it usually makes me feel a bit better and be able to tolerate what was given.
Perhaps, that’s what tolerance comes from understanding means. Then, sometimes, such understanding and tolerance have lowered the threshold of my satisfaction on things. I.e. I’m a person who is quite easy to satisfy with things than many others. Well, don’t get me wrong that I don’t like perfection or improvement. I do have a strong belief of continuous improvement and abiding to standard once it is set. Therefore, if it is stated in black-and-white that you should give me a 10, and you only gave me a 9, you bet I’m gonna chase you the missing 1. Especially when I’m representing others beneficiaries of certain matter. However, on my personal level, I’m a quite easy-going person that always to try to be happy with what I got and not try to be upset for not getting enough. It doesn’t mean that I’m not motivated to do things, and be happy to have a 'pie' on my face. I just think that motivation can come from more than one source. You can get your ass buzzing to do certain things out of anger or sorrow for not receiving enough. On the other hand, I think that being happy with what you have while looking forward to enjoy improvements should also be a drive to motivate yourself. I guess it goes along the ‘carrot and stick’ thing. With a twist that, I’m satisfied with the 'celery' that I ate, but I’ll still chase the 'carrot' ahead.
'To be able to satisfy easily' is actually easy to be said than done. I’m not sure if it is in the gene or something. Some people just can’t accept that or they are just never able to do. I think that I’m lucky to be able to do that. Cuz, satisfaction brings happiness. I wouldn’t say that I’m always happy, but I’m not a cranky person who like to complain all the time. Cuz, not everyone can turn his/her anger into a driver for improvement, I can tell you that many people simply get angry, and lash out their anger to others. That’s it. Just make other people feel bad or get them angry as well for being lashed on. I find that to be so destructive that I always try to avoid being such target.